LOVE

There is no remedy for love but to love more

Love is, above all else, the gift of oneself

To love is to receive a glimpse of heaven

On cloud 9??

Wait a moment... That’s not the end..

To start with, I strongly believe that the definitions of all the crucial words love, truth, god, selfishness in our
life changes from individual to individual. So, I am definitely not trying to define the word love. Am just
questioning some of the statements that came my way since some time… 

The frequently used definition about love is “It’s a feeling that no one can frame some words into sentences”.
If you are not able to define it you don’t have any right to talk about it, as you yourself don’t know anything
about it. If you know what it is, come on define it?

The next one is, “If you are in love with someone, you should accept him/her as he/she is”. What if a person
X is burning Y’s hands or any other body parts with cigarette? Since Y is feeling that he/she is in love with X,
he/she has to accept X as he/she is?? That’s damn fucking

“Love at first sight”... Ha ha ha ha... what a joke... if you feel love after seeing him/her in the first look. You
are in love with that person just because he/she looks like that.. So, if that person met with an accident and
lost his/her body parts before your first look... will you still get the same feeling as you are feeling now??
Don’t lie to yourself by saying yes.

Suppose, if there are two colleagues or classmates or neighbors who spent some years together and they like
each others interests and so they feel that as love. In this case, since they like his/her partners way of living and
their view points regarding life and they can’t accept other if he/she is not what they are now. Then, how can
we call it as love... its just business...

About opposite gender love in youth, if you have a best friend in opposite gender of your age and you are in
love with some other person. What is the difference between your best friend and lover? Is that not lust?? If not,
why the hell you think almost every second in the day about him/her? You ever spend that much time in a day
thinking of the best friend or even your parents or your siblings?? First of all, what do you think about her/him all
the day? Roaming around parks, beach or theatre? Why do you want to spend all the time lonely with your
partner? Why do you identify your pair when there is some chemistry going on between hero and heroine in a
movie? Why do you want to take her/his hand into yours and walk? Don’t you feel any difference in the hug you
give to your friend and your partner? Don’t say that it is romance. Romance does not stimulate your hormones,
Lust does…

I’m not saying that there is no care, no responsibility and so on between them. My question is why do you do
all the above only with your partner and not with your friend?? Another example is if two persons are friends

for some time without any feelings and then one/both feel that he/she loves the other… I’m sure that the
difference between before and after getting that feeling is lust. Also, he/she will get that dare or gut to express
his/her love with the other only if the person is able to accept the other physically. If they never get this physical
attraction into mind, they will remain as friends forever..

Its already too lengthy... I can’t afford to eat your brain anymore…

Thus, what I am trying to say is what people think as love has some other meaning or definition...

Review whatever I said and let me know if you have any words to say..

So, I’m concluding this post by wishing all the valentines...

“Wish you all a very happy lustful day”

THE HERO

We all like illusions or to say it better we live in illusions. Till we complete our academic education or till we get any unexpected problem in life we do not realize what we are. Till then we feel like a hero and think that we can do whatever we want in life. We can observe this while watching movies. When we see the film idiot we feel like an idiot, when we see three idiots we feel like amir, when we see ankuram we feel like revathi.

Till our academics, we do not have much concerns in life other than some exams and one or two crushes. But then, after coming in to the reality, when we started learning what we are, when we came to know we are not heroes and we have limitations in all sides of the life.. It is damn difficult to digest the facts. The only difference is till our academics we don’t know that we have some limits and we live in illusions, after that we will understand the facts about our heroism but still live in the same illusions.

For an instance, when a rowdy is raping heroine (or any other character) in a movie, we see it with utter anxiety to find the torn jacket or the bare thighs and what not each secret part of the victim and then immediately in the next scene if the hero goes and fight with that rapist, we support the hero heartfully and we may even clap in the theatre based on the directors capability. If we observe the above scenario, there is a contradiction within ourselves. We are enjoying her nakedness and in the next scene we hate the rowdy for doing so. The worst part is, even if we see swathimuthyam with in no time after the earlier movie we start identifying ourselves with the Kamal Hassan’s character in the movie.

There are some interesting interpretations in the above example. The first one is, we are ignorant that we are actually supporting the rowdy character as we strongly feel that we never do that kind of stuff to a lady. The second one is, we identify ourselves in the hero character as we all wish to fight against the evil in the society and then we go far beyond our nature and feel like Kamal Hassan. The reason behind each of our reactions is, we feel anxiety to see her naked because our hormones react faster than our heart, in the next scene our heart starts working and realizes that the lady was troubled by that rowdy. So, we want to fight against him. As we can’t fight with him either on screen or off screen, we start admiring the hero character as he is doing what you thought to do.

Similarly, when a lady sees the movie ankuram, she identifies herself with revathi and applauds her for doing whatever she has done in that movie. But, in reality how many persons can bring a child to her home in that fashion and fights with her husband, law and society to give back that kid to his father. Here also, the person believes that whatever Revathi has done is perfect and admires her because Revathi has done exactly what the person is believing correct.

As explained in the first example, we will come across lot of contradictions between what we do and what we believe in our real life. But, we do not realize this when we are students or under aged persons. As we grow up and understand the limitations of our heroism, we can not bare the feeling that we are not hero. Each day passing, we will come to know a new fact about our pseudo heroism and starts admiring the screen heroes in the movies and stop working about our heroism in the real life.

In the second example, we just don't know our inability that we can not save a child like that in reality but when we are watching the movie, we feel like we have fought against all the hindrances and gave back the child to his father. When we really face that kind of situation in real life, we admire the character of Revathi and stop thinking about our own heroism to save that child as we feel that it is unnecessary risk to our family and social life. If you save that child, then you are a hero and this blog is not for you.

I will leave this topic here to your sensibilities, abilities and guts to interpret all the above points. Just review yourself where you stand really.. Are you a real hero? Are you able to do what exactly you want to do? Or do you give up thinking about the heroism and living like every other person?

Finally, after seeing all these things, don’t come to me and ask, are you doing whatever you want... You already know the answer... ;)

P.S: You may have your own interpretations about good, bad and heroism. So, I am not at all bothered about how you take the above examples. But, if you are able to relate them to your own life and if it makes some sense try to review yourself and you know what to do after that..

Cheers!!

Varma